Are you being traumatized by media? The most important relationship in our lives right now is the one we have with our phone. That relationship is informing all other relationships in our life, including how we see ourselves. Jenny Black is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the State of Tennessee, the founder of Media Trauma Care, and the author of Inner Technology: How to be Human in a Digital World. She is currently writing a new book, Our Digital Soul: mental health, media trauma, and our relationship with the digital world, and in production on a documentary about the same topic. She coined the term “media trauma’’ and now specializes in training and education about how mental health is impacted by our use of media. She was selected to present a Media Trauma workshop at the 2019 AAMFT Annual Conference. Jenny’s other book is Unwritten Travels: an illustrated and guided journal for women. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community.
We are inviting you to a 30 day Digital Media Fast. We’re suggesting you take 30 days to self-observe what happens in you, your relationships, your family, and maybe even your children. What happens when you intentionally reduce the noise, the distractions, the notifications, the constant buzzing in your pocket?
We want you to let your nervous system detox. As we turn our attention from distractions, we want to guide you with some things to intentionally pay attention to.
Today’s guest has been a licensed marriage and family therapist for over a decade and it was only when her smartphone broke that she found her true life’s work: fixing our relationship with our devices! Jenny Wise Black has seen firsthand the trauma – yes, trauma – that is caused by the constant, everyday use of our devices. So, how have we gotten here, and more importantly, what can we do about it? Kaitlyn describes her personal relationship to her phone and social media, and why she’s deciding to take a break during this very painful time in her life. Your host also opens up about her recent breakup and the fears that come along with it, many of which (if not all) can be traced right back to her phone.
Jenny Black is a licensed marriage and family therapist from Tennessee. She's joined by her husband, Adam, and their two children, Brandon and Avery, who were exhibiting signs of media trauma. They are Co-Founders of Media Trauma Care a volunteer group of professionals dedicated to bring awareness and resources to care for those impacted by media trauma.
Starring Jenny Black
The process of trying, failing, and learning from failing may actually provide more value than continually achieving. Jenny Black, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of Media Trauma Care, explains that sometimes we set one goal for ourselves, but life has something different in mind. Instead, it gives us what we need, rather than what we initially wanted. This is an essential lesson in acceptance.
CHECK YOUR BANK ACCOUNT INSTEAD OF INSTAGRAM...It’s scary but true: we give far more attention to our social media platforms than we do to our money. This is because these channels allow us to escape from our current and disappear int one that may offer something more exciting or engaging. And, as Jenny Black, the founder of Media Trauma Care, puts it, our bank account has the opposite impact, sending us straight back to the present moment that might not be quite as rosy. “If you want to boost your financial confidence, shifting from fantasy to reality is essential,” she explains. “After a few weeks of giving your time, attention and creativity to the reality of your finances, your confidence will increase.”
Though normal, it’s important to remember that one of the contributors to optimal mental health is having the tools to meet the challenges we face, says author and licensed marriage and family therapist Jenny Black. Considering the last year has presented one hurdle after another, holding on to the roller coaster may be all you can manage sometimes. And that’s okay! It teaches us to practice an often underrated skill: patience.